Wow. I can’t believe it’s been almost 2 years since I last saw my husband.
It’s difficult to think about how much time we’ve spent apart, and how drastically our lives have changed since we saw each other last.
I honestly wasn’t expecting to be away from him this long after only spending a few months with him initially when we got married. But sometimes things happen that you don’t necessarily have control over.
So, What Happened?
I flew out to Yemen with my parents for my wedding in June 2010, after I graduated high school. I only got spent about 2 months with my husband and his family, because I was to return to the states (late-August) to start my first year of college. Because my husband is not an American Citizen, and doesn’t have a US Visa, he couldn’t return with me.
Our plan was that I would go back to America to start my first year of college, apply for his Visa, and then return to visit him in December 2010, during my Winter Break from school. Sounds easy, right?
Well, two days after I returned home I found out that I was pregnant. It was definitely something that I was not expecting because we were actually trying to prevent it from happening. But, like I said before, sometimes you just don’t have control over these things.
Due to my pregnancy and our financial situation at the time, I was unable to visit him for Winter Break. I was pretty devastated, because I was looking forward to seeing him, even for a little while. We both agreed that we would just wait it out until after I had the baby, and hoped that by that time his Visa would be in.
Fast-Forward to the Summer of 2011
With still no word about his Visa, Omar decided that he would fly me out to visit him during the summer of 2011. I ended up giving birth to Zach on May 12th and had no intentions of going overseas just yet because Zach was only a month old.
Around the same time, there was an uprising in Yemen that left it dangerous and unstable. Omar and his family decided that it would be best if I waited until things calmed down for me to visit them, and I agreed. There was no way I was going to go overseas during the time of the revolutions in the Middle East.
Another Year Went By…
I spent the next year attending school part-time, emailing and calling about the status of Omar’s Visa, and taking care of Zach. I figured that I needed to keep myself busy to help pass the time before I would be able to see Omar again. Taking care of Zach, attending college, and starting a blog has definitely kept me plenty busy, so I feel like time has passed by so fast.
While we both struggled from being away from each other for so long, I think he had more of a difficult time. Because of the situation in Yemen, Omar didn’t have the same options I did so he had a lot of free-time on his hands these past 2 years. He also didn’t get to experience the initial excitement of being a parent- like being there during my pregnancy, witnessing the miracle of giving birth to our baby, and watching Zach grow during his first year of his life.
2 Years Down, 2 Weeks To Go
Being separated for so long definitely took its toll on our relationship, especially since this separation occurred during the early stages. I can only hope that this minor set back will allow us to have an even stronger relationship and finally grow together as a family in the future.
In 2 weeks, I finally get to see Omar again and I couldn’t be more excited. Although I will only be visiting for 3 months, that’s more than enough time for us to rekindle our love for each other and reconnect. What I’m most excited about is that he is finally going to get the chance to meet Zach! I can’t wait to see the type of relationship he’s going to create with him.
It’s been such a difficult journey, but nobody said it would be easy.
2 more weeks, my love.